A funny thing sometimes happens when we cue people for toasts. They turn around in horror and say, “I’m giving a toast?” At first we think they’re joking, but sometimes, they’re NOT. So this person, whom the bride and groom told us was definitely giving a toast during our meetings, has no idea they are speaking!
Clinking glasses - toasting the bride and groom! Photo by Julie Wilson Photography, Juliewilsonphotography.com
Thus, we’ve had to give some tips on the fly. Here are foolproof steps for lovely wedding toast:
1. Start by introducing yourself briefly. It’s a good way to kick it off without much thought and give you a chance to ‘warm up’. Giving some background on how long you have known each other is also a way to set the tone for your toast.
2. Talk about a funny story from the bride or groom’s past that showed their sense of character or unique personality. Please…please: No naughty stories or embarrassing flashbacks. We had a toast-er talk about one of the couple’s many ex-es. Not cool.
3. Then segue into when you first met their other half. Maybe it was something sweet about how the groom held the door for the bride or how the bride realized she liked Star Trek as much as he did.
4. Wrap it up with raising a hand in toast, wishing the couple well and many years of happiness.
Photo by Olivier Lalin / Weddinglight.com
Feel free also to write out some key bullet points and bring up with you if you like. There’s nothing wrong with bringing up a cheat sheet.
Make sure your toast is no more than 5 minutes long – too long, and the crowd gets bored, and it can even cut into the DJ or band set that the couple paid for. I know it’s important to have this sentimental aspect of the wedding, but unless your speech is that good (and we’ve had professional comics as best men or maids who’ve killed out there) keep it short n’ sweet.
Always hold the mic up so it’s lightly touching your chin – or no one will be able to hear you. Guests are surprised that you have to bring it quite close up for the sound to project. If the mic is wireless, you can move around; if not, you will need to stay close to the DJ booth.
Lastly, bring up a glass to toast with, but remember between your notes, and the mic, you may not be able to hold it easily, so ask the DJ if you can place the glass near his gear – some are cool with this, some aren’t – or a nearby table may be best.
Happy toasting!